Guido Magnaguagno, a gay man living with HIV and now battling prostate cancer, has spent his life challenging societal norms. Born in Vicenza, Italy, and a longtime chef in New York City, Guido speaks candidly about the unique challenges queer individuals face in healthcare, particularly the stigma they often encounter.
“Whatever the stigma is, it’s very prevalent in the medical field,” says Guido, recounting his experiences with judgment from doctors and nurses. Queer people are often subjected to assumptions about their sexuality that straight people never face. “Straight men don’t have that worry. They go to the doctor, say, ‘I caught a cold,’ and get treated. For me, it’s like I have to fill out 20 questionnaires about my sexuality,” Guido explains.
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This pervasive sense of shame can deter many LGBTQI+ individuals from seeking care, which Guido stresses is dangerous. “I need a doctor who understands my pain—not just someone looking at a computer,” he says, highlighting the importance of finding compassionate healthcare providers.
In addition to seeking medical care, Guido emphasizes the importance of support groups, especially for gay men navigating cancer. These groups serve as safe spaces where members can share personal experiences about living with cancer as gay men, free from judgment. “We talk to each other,” he says, “about what it’s like to be a cancer patient when you’re a bottom.” These conversations, however candid, offer guidance and solidarity for those struggling to find information elsewhere.
Guido’s story is a reminder of the need for greater compassion in healthcare and the crucial role of community in navigating the challenges of being queer, living with HIV, and facing cancer.
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Resources: Support and Care for LGBTQI+ Cancer Patients
For a directory of medical professionals who are culturally competent and dedicated to LGBTQI+ health, visit the National LGBTQI+ Cancer Network’s National Provider Directory.
We also recognize the mental and physical challenges faced by LGBTQI+ individuals on their cancer journey. To offer support, the Cancer Network hosts free recurring Zoom gatherings where LGBTQI+ folks can connect, share, laugh, grieve, and celebrate their unique and shared experiences. Sign up here.
